The Arrow, The Bow, and Your Beautiful Becoming


Hey Beautiful Soul,

I'm writing this from a place of deep integration.

This past weekend, I completed the final direction of the medicine wheel in Amy Wilinski's Whispers on The Wind shamanic training program - the East, the place of death & rebirth.

Honestly? My logical mind is still catching up to what my soul already knows to be true.

My brain: "Wait, what just happened?"
My soul: "YES. ALL OF IT. MORE PLEASE."


Here's what died this weekend:
Stories I'd been carrying about who I needed to be. Old regrets. Hurt I'd caused others. The weight of unforgiveness - both given & received. We literally lightened our spiritual baggage, creating space for what wants to be born.


What was reborn?
A deeper knowing that Shamans source from power, not woundedness. That we get to do this healing work for ourselves FIRST. That every moment offers us the chance to die consciously to what no longer serves & be reborn into who we're becoming.


But let me be real with you about something...


When we found out we were going to do our own life review - that we were literally going to practice "dying" - my ego started looking for the nearest exit. Like, seriously scanning for escape routes.

Buuuuuut... My soul told me to have a seat & buckle up buttercup, because we were about to go on a wild ride.


And that's when it hit me: I was in full contraction mode.


Even me. Even in the middle of this sacred work that I love. My system was pulling back, resisting, contracting before the expansion.

This leads me to what I really want to talk about...


The Arrow & The Bow

You know how an arrow has to be pulled back on the bow before it can fly? Before it can soar toward its target with precision & power?

That pullback isn't punishment. It's preparation.

My ego desperately wanting to flee that life review? That was my arrow being pulled back. That resistance, that contraction - it was getting me ready for the most profound expansion I've experienced in years.

Right now, many of you are in that pullback phase - what I call contraction. Things are coming up to be seen, felt, & healed. Old patterns are surfacing. Challenges are presenting themselves. Life feels like it's squeezing you. Your ego might be looking for the exits too.

Contraction always comes before EXPANSION.


The arrow gets pulled back so it can fly.
The muscle contracts before it releases its power.
The caterpillar dissolves completely before it becomes the butterfly.
The ego freaks out right before the soul gets to soar.



Are you in a period of contraction right now? Challenge, struggle, things coming up to be cleared, your ego looking for escape routes?

Or are you in expansion? Abundance, blessings, growth, things flowing?



The TRUTH is:
Both are sacred.
Both are necessary.
Both are part of your beautiful becoming.


If you're in contraction, you're not doing anything wrong. You're not broken. You're not behind. Your soul might be telling you to buckle up buttercup because you're about to go on a wild ride toward your next level of flight.

If you're in expansion, celebrate it fully. Let yourself receive it. And know that this too is part of your spiral journey of growth.

I really want to know where you are right now.

Are you feeling the pullback of the bow?
Is your ego looking for exits while your soul says "buckle up"?
Or are you soaring?


Hit reply and tell me:

Contraction or expansion?
What's alive for you right now?


I read every single email that comes through, & I'll respond personally.

Because your journey matters. Your becoming matters. And sometimes we all need someone who sees the magic in our messy, beautiful transformation.


With so much love & light,




P.S. Nothing is too "weird" or "off the wall" for me. I find it all fascinating. So really, hit reply. Let's talk about what's happening in your world that you might not feel safe sharing with anyone else. 🔥



Hello! I'm Heather LaFond

Guiding women to break through, live their most empowered life, and healing hearts by connecting our world with the otherworldly.

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